RULES FOR FINDING LOVE: RULE 2
GET OVER IT BEFORE YOU GET ON IT
So,we got to know last week that reinventing yourself when you meet your love is only a call for disaster. Be you no matter where you find yourself .Today we are going to talk about licking your wounds before getting into a new relationship.
We all get battered and bruised by life, that’s inevitable. Some of us come off worse than others. Of course, it’s the scars that give us character, so they’re not all bad in the long run. In the short
term, we may need to recover before we re-enter the donnybrook.If your last relationship or two has left you a bit of an emotional wreck, it’s better to repair the damage before you start looking
for a new lover and partner. Otherwise you won’t be able to show them the real you, and you won’t be able to focus on them if you're still spellbound on yourself.If you make a mistake with your new relationship (and it happens to us all), you could end up more bruised than when you started. Even if you did manage to find someone truly caring and loving, both of you could suffer because one of you wasn’t wired or set to launch into a new relationship.
I have a friend who came out of one relationship an emotional wreck. Then she met a man who was lovely,kind, nurturing,and protective. Just what she thought she needed. Over the next years he looked after her until she was a strong, independent woman again. And guess what happened? It completely killed their relationship. She wasn’t the woman he’d fallen in love with any more. Lots of men go for strong, independent women, but he wasn’t one of them. He liked women who were fragile and needed looking after.And that’s the danger.
So do yourself a favor. Go away and hide somewhere while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family, and wait until you’ve fully recovered before you start looking for a new partner.And when you do, try to pick someone whose scars are relatively well-healed, too,because this works the other way as well. In this way you both see each other as you truly are, and start your relationship the way you want to continue it . Stay glued as we will talk about personal happiness in a relationship in the next rule.SHALOM
With Love,
AJ SMILE.
We all get battered and bruised by life, that’s inevitable. Some of us come off worse than others. Of course, it’s the scars that give us character, so they’re not all bad in the long run. In the short
term, we may need to recover before we re-enter the donnybrook.If your last relationship or two has left you a bit of an emotional wreck, it’s better to repair the damage before you start looking
for a new lover and partner. Otherwise you won’t be able to show them the real you, and you won’t be able to focus on them if you're still spellbound on yourself.If you make a mistake with your new relationship (and it happens to us all), you could end up more bruised than when you started. Even if you did manage to find someone truly caring and loving, both of you could suffer because one of you wasn’t wired or set to launch into a new relationship.
I have a friend who came out of one relationship an emotional wreck. Then she met a man who was lovely,kind, nurturing,and protective. Just what she thought she needed. Over the next years he looked after her until she was a strong, independent woman again. And guess what happened? It completely killed their relationship. She wasn’t the woman he’d fallen in love with any more. Lots of men go for strong, independent women, but he wasn’t one of them. He liked women who were fragile and needed looking after.And that’s the danger.
So do yourself a favor. Go away and hide somewhere while you lick your wounds. Enjoy your friends and your family, and wait until you’ve fully recovered before you start looking for a new partner.And when you do, try to pick someone whose scars are relatively well-healed, too,because this works the other way as well. In this way you both see each other as you truly are, and start your relationship the way you want to continue it . Stay glued as we will talk about personal happiness in a relationship in the next rule.SHALOM
With Love,
AJ SMILE.
It's a very good piece of work you have there. Thank you for the word of advice and knowledge. Shalom
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