RULES FOR FINDING LOVE. RULE 3

YOU WON'T BE HAPPY WITH A PARTNER UNTIL YOU CAN 
BE HAPPY ON YOUR OWN.
     Happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give  pleasure, possessions, power ,but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.
     I knew a lovely young lady who was always in a relationship. You know the kind,maybe you’re the same,the moment one relationship ended, another started. I asked her once why this was, and she told me that she didn’t like being on her own so she made sure it never happened. When I got to know her well, she was with a man who was perfectly decent but who just didn’t give her the love she deserved. Why did she put up with it, I asked her. She patiently explained that she had no choice, because the alternative was being on her own, and she couldn’t cope with that option.
     In the end, things got really bad and he left. She braced herself for the breakdown she knew would follow. I saw her a month or so later and asked how she was coping. She told me, “Fine, at
the moment. I thought I would have fallen to pieces by now, but it’s obviously taking longer to happen than I expected.”I think it was six months before it finally dawned on her that she
wasn’t actually going to break down at all. Sometime later she met a guy who wanted to get serious with her but she resisted because she was too happy on her own to be locked down by another guy in another relationship.
    So the moral of this story is that you need to learn to be happy and secure on your own. That way, you’ll never stay in a bad situation for fear of being left alone. If it’s not working out, you can
simply leave. After you’ve mastered this, you’ll only ever live with anyone else
because you love them and they make you happy. Being alone is great, but being with them is even better. If that stops being the case, you’re free to leave.
Learn to be happy on your own before seeking happiness from other people and places.SHALOM
with love,
AJ SMILE

Comments

  1. Unknown12 April 2018 at 08:40

    Great piece

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  2. Peekish12 April 2018 at 08:42

    Great👍

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  3. Saleh Fauzi Sinare (Kiki Sinare)12 April 2018 at 08:44

    This comment has been removed by the author.

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  4. Saleh Fauzi Sinare (Kiki Sinare)12 April 2018 at 08:45

    I really enjoy reading your blog

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  5. Unknown12 April 2018 at 10:54

    Very educative l have learnt that l need to make myself happy. Tnx

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  6. Unknown12 April 2018 at 12:50

    So true

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  7. FOKA12 April 2018 at 18:17

    Shalom

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  8. Friendship12 April 2018 at 20:39

    Ei I disagree oh sometimes you need someone to make or teach how to be happy by yourself then you can proceed see ? Even to achieve that you need someone

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  9. A Poet's Muse13 April 2018 at 00:11

    Such a lovely piece, I'm glad the lady took a good decision at the latter part.

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