RULES FOR FINDING LOVE

                                   RULE 1: BE YOURSELF 

        I think I'm in love and it seems i am reinventing myself whenever i meet that person. Do you  think it is right for me to do that or not?. Unfortunately, most of us always seem to reinvent or change our lifestyles and personality, be who we think our new found love is looking for, which is very absurd.Sometimes you could become sophisticated, or maybe strong, silent, and mysterious. At the very least, you could stop embarrassing yourself by making jokes at inappropriate moments or being pathetic when dealing with problems.Actually, no you couldn’t. You might manage it for an evening or two, or even a month or two, but it’s going to be tough keeping it up forever. And if you think this person is the one you ,then you might be spending the next half century or so with them. Just imagine, 50 years of pretending to be sophisticated or suppressing your natural sense of humor.
     And would you actually want a lifetime of lurking behind some sham personality you’ve created?
Imagine how that would be,being  unable to let them know that this wasn’t really you at all, for fear of losing them. Suppose they find out in a few weeks or months or years, when you finally crack?
They’re not going to be very impressed.Let’s be clear. I’m not saying you shouldn’t try to turn over the occasional new leaf or improve yourself a bit. We should all be doing that all the time, and not only in our love life. Sure, you can try to be a bit more organized, or less negative. Changing
your behavior is all fine and good. This Rule is about changing
your basic personality. That will NOT work, and you’ll tie yourself
in knots trying to do it convincingly.
   So be you. Might as well get it all out in the open now,if it’s not who they’re looking for, at least you won’t get in too deep before they find out. And you know what? Maybe they don’t
actually like sophisticated. Perhaps strong silent types are not for them. Maybe they will love your upfront sense of humor.Perchance they want to be with someone who needs a bit of looking
after.You see, if you fake it, you’ll attract someone who belongs with a person that isn’t you. And how will that help? Somewhere out there is someone who wants exactly the kind of person you are,
complete with all the flaws and failings you come with. And I will tell you something else,they won’t even see them as flaws and failings. They’ll see them as part of your unique charm. And
they’ll be right. Don't you worry "bout " a thing and be yourself my dear. Stay tuned for the next rule;get over it before you get on it .SHALOM.
with love,
AJ SMILE